Lunch With Sandy
Welcome to the "Lunch With Sandy" podcast, where we serve up candid conversations seasoned with humor and insight. Join us as we delve into much-needed discussions, sprinkled with our unique sense of humor. On the menu, you'll find a variety of topics, from conflict resolution to navigating tricky questions with grace. We also explore current events, sharing our perspectives on the everyday trials and triumphs. So pull up a chair, grab a plate, and enjoy the feast of conversation.
Lunch With Sandy
New Year, New You
Embark on a transformative journey with us, Terrance and Sandy, as we unravel the complexities of marriage and the pursuit of self-improvement. Our latest podcast isn't just another set of New Year's resolutions—it's an invitation to real growth. Through our candid conversation, uncover ten key considerations that promise to reshape your approach to personal goals and breathe new life into the 'New Year, New You' mantra. We'll tackle the tired narrative of exhaustion and share Sandy's insights on personal growth priorities that can genuinely make a difference in your life.
Imagine investing in yourself in a way that enriches not just your own well-being but also that of your family. Our dialogue takes a deep look at the essence of self-investment, emphasizing its role in achieving both mental and physical health. We share strategies for incorporating continuous learning into your everyday life and the discipline required to stick with it. Discover the art of saying no, understanding its power in steering your personal growth, and learn how to cherish the unwavering support of family, recognizing its vital place in your support system.
In this heart-to-heart, we'll share the importance of parental involvement during these crucial years and how to make a positive impact. We'll also explore life lessons that propel personal growth, like avoiding judgments and cherishing people over possessions. Wrapping up, we invite you to engage with us on social media and share your thoughts—because your feedback is the compass that guides our show. Remember to indulge in self-care and join us again for more enriching discussions. If our stories resonate with you, a review would be the cherry on top!
In a relationship, when is honesty not the best policy? How do you balance what you want versus what you need, and is there something you need to say to your spouse but can't find the right way to say it? If so, then you're in the right place. This is the Lunch with Sandy podcast. With nearly 20 years of marriage under their belts Terrance and Sandy Jackson discuss a range of topics, provide valuable insights on relationships and talk about the conversations married couples need to have. So what does lunch have to do with all of this? Well, it's a metaphor for how these conversations originally started. Speaking of conversations, let's get one going. Here's your hosts, Terrance and Sandy.
Terrance:Welcome to another episode of the Lunch with Sandy podcast, where we delve into different topics and give you perspective to people who've been married for nearly 20 years. I'm Terrance.
Sandy:It's over 20 years and I'm Sandy, I'm. Terrance and I'm Sandy.
Terrance:And today we're going to be having a conversation discussing how to start off the new year right, and it took me a little while to say that because as I was going into my introduction I was interrupted. So I think for the new year, Sandy needs to make that one of her resolutions. But before we get into all that, I got something to say. Keep your slippers waiting for you when you come home, when I come home if you don't want me to walk through your house with my shoes, have my slippers ready.
Sandy:That's why we have a mudroom where you keep your slippers.
Terrance:I don't come in the mudroom. Next question, next question.
Sandy:Next question Lies All right, I don't have much more to say than that.
Terrance:No, you know what? There's a lot of things that I can say, but I'm not going to hold it up today. I will say this we have a new setup, things a little different. You're sitting across me on a couch. I know you feel I'm about making you comfortable. Do you feel comfortable today?
Sandy:No.
Terrance:Well, let's get into how you really feel. Let's transition into how Sandy doing today.
Sandy:I'm trying to stay away from the. I'm tired, but I can't help it. It's been a busy, busy weekend and I'm tired.
Terrance:Now listen how Sandy's become a big portion of this actual show.
Sandy:I know.
Terrance:So you got to start preparing, because you can't keep saying I'm tired every week.
Sandy:I haven't said it in a while.
Terrance:You get one. I'm tired every 30 episodes, all right.
Sandy:We'll see about that.
Terrance:All right, so let's move on. We're at that point of the year where we're in 2024. What that means is we're just past the holidays. Well, yeah, we aren't just past the holidays 20, 24, new year.
Sandy:Okay.
Terrance:The beginning of every year, everyone has all of these goals, resolutions and all these things they want to do for the new year.
Sandy:That's why I don't set any goals or resolutions for myself.
Terrance:I don't have a problem I'm just kidding. I don't have a problem with setting goals and resolutions for the year, but I think that it's better to challenge yourself with not just something that you plan on doing for the year. So what I want to do is I'd like to challenge everyone to think about more than just resolutions for the new year.
Sandy:All right, I don't particularly set up a new year's resolution for myself. I feel like I'm always trying to be a better version of myself, and how do I do that is a variety of ways, but it's never ending.
Terrance:It is never ending.
Sandy:But certain things might become more of a priority, I think, than others yeah.
Terrance:I'm sticking to this concept, this concept that I'm coming up with and I don't want to say coming up with this.
Terrance:I want to use this term new year, new you and I've come up with a list of 10 things that I want people to consider or think about when they start talking about how they want to begin a new, starting this year. Off you ready to get into this? At the beginning of every year, like I said, everyone has all these resolutions and typically it's you know, I want to do this, I want to eat healthy and all that. So, in lines with all that, I think when you start talking about the different things that you want to do, particularly for yourself or to yourself in the new year, I categorize that as investing in yourself. I think that when you're talking about redefining who you are from more than the perspective of a resolution, when you're investing in yourself, you want to make sure or you want to make that a long-term investment. And when I talk about investing in yourself, I'm talking about, in your mind and your body, making your health a priority and then looking at yourself and continuing to grow and to develop.
Sandy:Which is funny, because even when I think about investing in myself, it's not just well, my body is a big one, right Like you're only giving one body again, take care of it.
Sandy:But then also it's mental health and investing yourself, and it's also just learning like we shouldn't stop learning as we get older. Like you know people I don't know I particularly did not want to go back to school for like my master's degree, but that's just me. But in my eyes, I also still like to learn, whether it's learning a new language or trying to learn a new language, that's been eminent, flowing right, just anything like we shouldn't stop.
Terrance:Yeah, I've said this in a number of different episodes every day is an opportunity to learn Definitely, and when you talk about investing in yourself, you know, like I said, it's not just the body, it's the mind. Also, you need to make sure that you're continuing to learn and that doesn't mean you got to go back to school. There are lessons to be learned.
Sandy:Definitely.
Terrance:Around us every day and there are so many different resources to to learn about different things. And when I'm talking about learning, you ain't got to go out and get a master's degree or do as much work to get something like that you too has been. There's a saying there's a saying that the wise man knows that he knows nothing, and the point behind that is, if you put yourself in a position where you believe that you know everything, oh yeah. There's no room for you to learn all that that you really don't know.
Sandy:Right, well, and you know you I don't want to use the term you make fun of me for this but you talk about how I look up everything, but even that to me is also like learning A LaWan and Dutch Braids one day and I'm like how the heck do you? Do Dutch Braids and I watch a YouTube video and I learned how to do Dutch Braids.
Terrance:There's some aspects of what you do that is, learning, and there's some aspects of what you do with Google. That's just nosy.
Sandy:And then one time I wanted to be able to tie like a really good knot.
Terrance:Yeah, right, we get it.
Sandy:I learned how to do an article knot.
Terrance:We start Listen. Why is it? Why is it we start having these conversations and we start spiraling down this path?
Sandy:Why I just mean like learning, doesn't mean like another degree doesn't even have to be long winded like another language it could be simple little things.
Terrance:Yes.
Sandy:How to do a Dutch braid and how to do an article knot.
Terrance:Yes, the one thing that I will say when you start talking about ways to invest in yourself, you want to take that piece from. We talked about a couple episodes about being disciplined. What happens a lot of times when the new year comes around and people have these New Year's resolutions, it'll work for four or five, six weeks, maybe even a couple of months, but they don't put the discipline behind that motivation and then it ends up tailing off. When we talk about the concept of New Year, new you, that's a new approach and as part of that approach, you want to start adding the discipline, so those things that you're putting in place can carry you through in perpetuity, for as long as you wish to actually do those things.
Sandy:And I feel like one of the things that can go with that is the ability to say no. I think sometimes some of us need to learn that. I know I did. Like it's okay to say no to things, so you know you're I don't know somebody wants to go do something and that's. You know you have a class lined up or whatever right. Like you know it's your workout session and then it's okay to tell that person no. Like this is my priority. You know, for me it's more trying to put too much in my calendar is where I need to start saying no to things. But you know, for other people, like you said, it goes with, like the discipline, so it could be not getting deterred by other people, deterring you as well.
Terrance:So I think saying no yeah, I don't know how we got to say no, but I get it.
Sandy:Well, I think it's well because we're investing in ourselves. So it's okay to say no to people, other people, because it's saying yes to ourselves and no to somebody else.
Terrance:Yeah, okay, that's okay. The other thing that I think it's important when we start talking about the new year, new you and I must stop saying new year, new you because, again, I'm only using the term new year is to say okay, well, at some point you have to start something.
Terrance:Yeah and, as we have just come across the finish line for the new year and the end of last year, now is the opportunity, today is the day, but these are more lessons that you can carry with you throughout your life, and one important thing that you have to start investing in is your family, because there are very few constants in life, and there are two of those constants that we all share. Number one you come into this world. Number two at some point, inevitably, you're going to leave this world, and so you may not always have the opportunity, particularly from the perspective of your first form of support, or your first level of support typically comes from your family, and now is the time, or now you have the time, to nurture those relationships, to put past any differences that you may have with someone in your family, bring that unit closer together and really invest in building or maintaining or strengthening that bond that you have with your family.
Sandy:No, you're right, we're only given a limited amount of time and you never know what your limit is gonna be. And in the same breath, especially with your children, they are only certain phases. For so long you know they're only little, for so long you know it just goes by really, really fast and you don't realize it until it's gone.
Terrance:Yeah, and so the other part about that too is there are end phases for certain periods of time. Those periods might be the time where you can have the most impact from that investment. And if you miss that window, not to say that you can't work on it afterwards, but sometimes it makes it a bit more difficult when that opportunity or that window has passed.
Sandy:Yeah, and I'm thinking like you know right now. You know Aylin's getting ready. Wow, she's getting ready to be in high school next year, which is kind of crazy.
Terrance:Yep.
Sandy:And I feel like this is an age where they don't wanna spend as much time with their-.
Terrance:That is correct.
Sandy:Parents.
Terrance:You are correct.
Sandy:This is where they wanna spend more time with their friends, but I feel like this is where us, as parents, need to put in extra effort to spend the time with our kids.
Terrance:Yeah, we gotta put in extra effort. At the same time, we gotta be more open-minded. When they get to this age, their idea of what's fun or their idea of you know what is going to be I'm trying to find the right term, I don't wanna use cool, but they're different they start to formulate their own opinions, the change in what they used to like to do and what they like to do now. This is that age where that starts to happen. So we as parents have to be more open to looking at what it is that it's going to take from their perspective to make that investment as smooth as possible.
Sandy:Well, and I feel like these are very formative years. You know, don't get me wrong, I have memories from when I was young, but I think the decisions that I made as a teenager is really what put me on certain paths as a young adult, and hence you know some of the decisions. I question, of course, if I had to go back and redo. Nah, I'm just kidding, I would never redo anything because it just still made me the person that I am today. But at the same time, you know, part of being a parent right is wanting the best for your children. So I feel like this is just a really important time to make sure that we're spending as much time with them because this is going to really be the most impactful for their young adult lives.
Terrance:Yeah, and so the other thing that you want to actually be mindful of, or the other point that I have to make when we start talking about how we start looking at how we want to progress and make these changes in our lives, is we need to stop spending time with people who don't treat us well.
Sandy:Yeah.
Terrance:Don't spend time with people who don't treat you well. That negativity permeates throughout when you surround yourself with it. Chances are you're not getting a lot of positive energy or output or feedback from those individuals, so why have them as part of your life?
Sandy:Well, and it's mentally exhausting Dealing with those and it's exhausting and it does affect you.
Sandy:It does, it certainly does, and I think not just that, but even dwelling on those negative people just kind of brings about like it's like a consistent negative energy that's never ending. I don't remember where I read this or heard it, and it was like why do we focus on the people who aren't here versus the people who are? And I feel like that can also be taken into the same respect of why are we focusing on the people with the negative energy versus the people with the positive energy? Who cares about the people with the negative energy? You're gonna feel better not having them around anyhow.
Terrance:Yeah, you know what my take on that is. There are sometimes where we, as people, love drama. We get caught up into it. So if things are positive, it's good and we don't focus on it. Let me rephrase that I like to focus on the positive, but for the most part, if there's something that's negative going on, there's something for people to actually focus on and talk about and point out to other people. So I think that's part of the reason. But you shouldn't allow negativities to surround you like that, and if people aren't treating you well, it's a waste of time, which leads me to this another point.
Sandy:I certainly don't like drama.
Terrance:I hate peace.
Terrance:Another point, another life lesson, something to carry forward is accept quality over quantity. That's one of those things where you can look at it from a number of perspectives. When you talk about what it is that you put into something or what it is that you get out, from a work perspective, or from the perspective of trying not to overload yourself to do 10 things, where you can do five things really well and at the same time, too, when we start talking about cutting out those negative people and not surrounding those negative people, rather than have a whole bunch of people in your life where you have 10, 15, 20, 30% of them negative, cut those people out and focus on those good people that you actually have in your life.
Sandy:Yeah.
Terrance:Yeah.
Sandy:I just, you know, I'm just thinking about things. It's just I don't know. Even this stops the energy out of me now.
Terrance:What is the thing that you're thinking about? Sapping the energy out of you?
Sandy:No, yeah, like just thinking about the times in my life where I've just been surrounded by just negativity and just the life sucking energy. That was my yeah, yeah.
Terrance:Just being able to just walk away honestly right.
Sandy:But you're right, Like kind of what we said Surround yourself the people who are making you happy versus the people who are not. It's just not worth it. Life is too short, Time is too short.
Terrance:Yeah, Another thing to focus on and I said this to Lexi the other day was get comfortable being uncomfortable. And by that what I mean is we all like to sit in our comfort zone and do things that are easy and I use that term easy very lightly but things that come easy to us, that we know how to do, You're not. You're not always going to find success and comfort. You need to push the boundary and push yourself to get a little bit uncomfortable and become comfortable being uncomfortable so you can reach that next level.
Terrance:Think about it from this perspective. You have a resolution and say you want to go to the gym. You want to, I don't know. You want to gain 10 pounds of muscle, but it's something that you haven't done before. So to do that, you're going to have to get out of your comfort zone, to put you in a position, to put your body in a position so that it can actually get to that actual goal. If you say I want to gain 10 pounds of muscle and you keep doing the same thing that you do every day and that hasn't worked for you in the past.
Sandy:I was going to say the only thing I gained in comfort was love handles, oh goodness Uh. But you know, honestly, yeah, especially when it comes to working on your body. So number one right is you have to get uncomfortable. Things have to hurt to some degree.
Terrance:A great man once said if it don't hurt, it don't work. Shout out to Scott Pina.
Sandy:You know. So that's that's you know. Number one I think was working out is that you know you can't. Just you're going to plateau and you're just going to be like whatever and your love handles are going to grow, um, but you know, I even think about like with the biking, like I don't sometimes want to tire myself out, you know like, but at the same time, that's where you grow is in that uncomfortable growth is in that stage where you get a little uncomfortable.
Sandy:You just want to give up like you like to burn in whether it's mentally whether it's physically.
Terrance:That's where the actual growth happens.
Sandy:No, for sure, yeah.
Terrance:Otherwise, you know, like I said, another thing to take into 2024 to be mindful of is and we've said this before, I know I've said it before on previous episodes do a better job being present, and that's not just again. These things that I'm mentioning. They're not resolutions, they're more lessons that you can carry on throughout your life.
Sandy:I feel like that also goes together with the quality versus quantity. Even if you just have 10 minutes, you know, put down your phone, be present in whatever conversation you know, I know. I feel like I should say this happens with a little lot. When she's ready to talk, I'm always in the middle of something right Cooking, cleaning, whatever it is.
Terrance:You need to be more present for my daughter.
Sandy:Well, I'm always present for her, but you know, like we talk about phases and it's only so long and it's very short, like I recognize that sometimes myself, and I'll try to just stop doing what I'm doing just to listen to her, because whatever she wants to talk about we can talk about, because then later on if you try to bring up that conversation, she doesn't want to talk about it.
Terrance:She doesn't want to talk about it and I think part of that is for as a parent and for us. I think we need to recognize that things that we may not deem as important are important to kids at particular ages, and we have to remember that because, again, like you said, that opportunity exists. If you don't take advantage of that opportunity, you might not get it again, and then what happens is, as time goes on, she may not come to talk to us about anything because of all those missed opportunities that we can take advantage of.
Sandy:Right, and I feel like, at the age that she's at right now, when she wants to talk is when to talk, because she doesn't always want to talk. She has her moments. So if you try to even have a conversation, it doesn't even have to be part of the same conversation. You just try to have a conversation with her at a different part of the day. She just like shuts down.
Terrance:Yeah.
Sandy:Doesn't even want to conversate with you.
Terrance:And on the other aspect of being present, a big part of that too is you know, when I thought about this is just making sure that you're taking advantage of everything that's presented to you, or and I don't want to say I guess taking advantage is not the right word being mindful and enjoying what's presented to you in that actual moment, because you don't know what's going to happen in the next moment, or if that next moment is actually going to actually happen.
Sandy:Yeah, so unfortunately she tends to have bad timing. But yes, that is definitely one thing that I've recognized and I know personally I need to get better at that.
Terrance:Just stuff yeah.
Sandy:Like what, even if I'm in the middle of cooking something just turn it off and get back to it later.
Terrance:Because it's not always just about a last and your questions. I'm talking about being present in yes, yes, yes.
Sandy:You know, I said this, I'm not being present, yes, in general, but I recognize for me myself that that's one particular thing that I need to get better at, cause I think I try to be present, I try to put down the phone. Quite often I feel like the biggest that's our biggest disturbance is our phones.
Terrance:For some people. I mean well, I'm going to say for some people. I don't want to say the majority, because, again, the world is a very vast place and I don't have access to all those individuals so well and I say phone because I'm listening to my audio books, like there's, to play my games, like there's just a lot of things that I'm using my phone for, so I'm just using that as a general term.
Terrance:Yeah Well, the one thing and I can use this as a general term that you know when I start talking about again lessons that we can all learn from, is we all, as a people, we all have to be less judgmental. It's true, Everyone judges everything, whether it's the clothes that you got on, whether it's how you, how you look or something you you said. There's so much judgment in the world, and when you spend so much time judging others, that's less time that you have to reflect on who you are and who you, who you should be, and I just think that you can spend all that time judging others, but you're missing out the point. There are many different ways to live a life.
Sandy:The whole cancel culture.
Terrance:When you start, when I'm not even going to get into the whole cancel culture thing, I'm just talking about being judgmental. I'm not talking about, I'm not even going to get in that. The point that I'm trying to make is your way is not always the only way. Most of the time it's not the only way. So if someone chooses to do something in a different way, that's their choice. Worry about what you do, what you can control, and stop being so judgmental.
Sandy:I've made plenty of maybe not the smartest decisions in my life, so I definitely try not to be judgmental.
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Sandy:I've definitely have gotten better at it with age for sure. Then maybe when I was younger. I feel like most people try to do the best that they can with whatever skills and information that they have at that given moment time for themselves.
Terrance:I don't think most people do that.
Sandy:You don't think so.
Terrance:What are we talking about?
Sandy:I'm just talking about it in general, like people's parenting, you know. Oh, I can't believe they let their kids do it.
Terrance:Oh, I thought you were talking about. I thought you were talking about when people look at others and they start judging.
Sandy:Oh no, well kind of sorta I'm talking about, like you know.
Terrance:You're talking about moving through life, I agree with that.
Sandy:Yeah, I agree with that. You know people like I feel like parenting is like one of the biggest judges, like people love to judge other people's parenting.
Terrance:That's one thing I try to stay away from.
Sandy:Right, but I feel like I see it all the time, like I hear it all the time and I'm like, well, they're doing the best that they can do with the information, the skills that they have.
Terrance:I think a lot of times where one interesting note I think a lot of times where people are judging others, regardless of what it is they're really judging themselves, or they're looking to place judgment on someone else so judgment doesn't fall to actually them.
Sandy:Making themselves feel better. Maybe, they feel inadequate, or they're questioning decisions that they've made for themselves, and so that they then try to judge somebody else to be like well, I don't do that, so I'm doing okay. Yeah.
Terrance:And that's something that we need to get away from.
Sandy:Definitely, especially commenting on the people's parenting skills.
Terrance:Yeah, stop doing that, Sandia.
Sandy:That's not a good.
Terrance:It's not really a good look. You know, I talked about how we just got past the holidays and one life lesson that we all need to not all of us, because there are some people who, some cultures. This is very different, but we have to start picking people over possessions.
Sandy:Definitely.
Terrance:Things are just objects. But the way we cling to objects, the way we utilize objects, we're not leaving room for all those people who are around us.
Sandy:So I have a couple of thoughts on this One. I feel like, again, life and age has got. Do you see certain things more clearly? And at this point I'm in the purging. I don't wanna have stuff, I'm like stuff just ties me down.
Terrance:I'm gonna go through those clouds and start getting rid of a bunch of stuff now.
Sandy:I've gotten rid of a lot of stuff on my own. It's a slow process. I've been at it for years and I continue to just get rid of stuff.
Sandy:You just said yeah, you've been at it for years, I know In every, and I just keep like I keep finding more and more stuff to get rid of. That's what I mean. I've been at it. That's why I said it's a slow process, it takes time. First it's the stuff that you really just don't want, and then it's the stuff Sometimes it gets a little bit more meaningful as you progress through and it's hard to get rid of everything. But I don't like stuff anymore. The other thing, too, is picking people over possessions.
Sandy:I feel like you should express it to people, like what they mean to you. I don't think we do that enough. I know I certainly don't do it enough. I was not brought up talking about my feelings, you know, or telling people that I love them or anything like that. So for me that's also part of the. Getting uncomfortable is like talking about those things, and I feel like, because we do have such a short time here that we should express ourselves. Let people know, like, what they mean to us. How much they mean to us is really what it comes down to. I feel like that ties a few of the things together, but yeah, you keep working on tying those things together.
Sandy:I mean the points that we're making.
Terrance:Yeah, no, that's what I'm talking about.
Sandy:It's a few of them, but I think that is also important when we are picking people over possessions.
Terrance:Yeah, I think that we, particularly now in today's age with technology, there is not enough effort focusing on building lasting relationships. So when I talk about people over possessions, that's a big part of it too. You can easily stay home, be on social media, order all these things on Amazon, and have the nice cars, this, that and the other, but at the end of the day, if you're not building lasting relationships at some point, the material things that you have well, not at some point, at no point will those material possessions that you have ever be able to support you from a emotional perspective, from a health perspective, from a mental perspective. I mean, you might have something that'll make you feel okay, good in the moment, but Shiny and new is always feeling good when you're first buying it.
Terrance:That's not going to last. So you know, focus on building lasting relationships and put people over possessions, and that will get you much further in the long run. When we start talking about life and the lessons that you're going to learn, Thanks to you.
Sandy:Think about our phones. Nowadays, you buy one and then three months later it's already a new one out.
Terrance:I bought that 14 and four weeks later the 15 came out. And you know, they knew that 15 was coming out, they just never said anything.
Sandy:Yeah, exactly, but people last more than a couple months and years.
Terrance:Here's one thing in 2024 that I'm going to recommend that everyone, everyone try to get the opportunity to do when that's traveled to another country. I think, particularly for us here in America, we need to experience other cultures in other places. You can experience other cultures here in this country, but it's different when you travel abroad and you're immersed in that actual culture. To get a sense of who they are and how they live is a beautiful thing and it changes the framework of how you actually think about what you have versus what you need from the perspective of survival.
Sandy:And try to even venture out a little bit outside of those like major tourist destinations, you know.
Terrance:Yeah, and I would say that's good. We were just talking about this.
Sandy:yesterday, Like in Rome, it was not didn't seem like the food was as good as probably I'm not putting down Rome.
Terrance:I wasn't there yet. No, I'm not.
Sandy:I personally was not there either, but the person speaking was saying like he they had to get out of Rome to really experience more authentic food.
Terrance:Yeah, and I'm not even. What I'm going to say is this from the perspective of, you know, 2024,. Travel to another country. I don't care if you go, whether or not you go to the traditional tourist route or not. Just get out and experience another culture, learn from others and see what those other cultures are actually like. And then, lastly and this might sound simple enough, and it's simple enough but people don't treat people well. You know, there's this famous quote, and the quote goes something like people will forget what you did, people will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. And that's big, because there is something to be said about someone who treats you well to the point where you always remember that actual feeling.
Sandy:Yeah, let's say it was term be a buddy, not a bully. But no, just be a good person, right? Like just treat people well. You don't have. Like why. Why do we have to sometimes be so mean to each other and I think you brought this up to before Just because somebody might have offended you, I don't know 10 years ago or something like that? Like why even bother holding a grudge? Just be a good person and whatever. If that person was meant to be in your life, they will be. If not, then you know they're not. But that doesn't mean you have to be rude or mean or whatever when you encounter them again in the future. You know.
Terrance:Yeah. So, as we wrap, those are 10 things that you should consider when you start talking about this new year, new you concept that I'm coming up with for 2024. I think there's some transformative power when you talk about life lessons as opposed to saying, okay, I have a traditional new years resolutions. New years resolution. When you prioritize continuous growth, when you prioritize continual mindfulness and you apply those principles, you end up with a more sustainable and meaningful approach to personal development. Now you know what time it is. It's time for my weekly reflection. I'm gonna give you a chance to actually answer that time for chocolate.
Terrance:There's this African proverb that reads if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. The gist of that is this you can achieve results working by yourself. However, if you're looking for something that's going to last and stay in the test to time, that collaborative effort is what you're going to need to actually make that come into fruition. So don't go out and try to get things done the quick way, because you can do them on your own. Work together, build and put yourself in a position where you can build a foundation for something that's going to last.
Sandy:Does that mean we're going to go take a nap together?
Terrance:Nope. Thank you for joining us on the Lunch with Sandy podcast. Be sure to follow and leave feedback on all social media and your favorite podcasting app. Until next time, stay well.
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